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5 Things to Say When Someone Dies: Funeral directors share what truly comforts the grieving
Last Updated on September 6, 2025 by Daily News Staff
5 Things to Say When Someone Dies: Funeral directors share what truly comforts the grieving
(Family Features) When someone you know loses a loved one, finding the right words can be difficult. A bit of compassion goes a long way and knowing the right thing to say matters.
According to funeral professionals who guide families through loss daily, the approach matters.
“Just know we are here to walk with you every step,” funeral director Randy Anderson said.
Here are five thoughtful things to say when someone dies, based on insights from spokespeople from the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), which represents funeral directors who support families every day during the grieving process:
- “I’m here for you.”
Offering your presence, whether to listen, help with daily tasks or just sit quietly, lets the grieving person know they are not alone.
“I let them know I am here to listen,” funeral director Allyse Worland said. “Do more listening and less talking. I am still here for you, even after the service.”
- “Tell me about your loved one.”
Inviting stories and memories honors the deceased and helps keep their spirit alive
“Tell me about your loved one,” funeral director Stephen Kemp said. “What made them special? Positive stories are always helpful.”
- “What can I do to support you right now?”
Rather than a vague “let me know if you need anything,” this question encourages specific offers of help, which can be easier for someone in grief to accept.
“Offer actual support instead of just saying ‘sorry’ or ‘thoughts and prayers,’” Worland said.
- “It’s OK to feel whatever you’re feeling.”
Grief is a uniquely personal experience that can evoke a range of emotions. Validating those feelings removes pressure to “be strong” or “move on” too quickly.
“Sometimes you don’t have to say anything,” funeral director Camelia Clarke said. “A hug or touch says it all.
- “I don’t have the words, but I am here for you.”
Sometimes, words fall short. Acknowledging this honestly while offering your presence can be deeply comforting.
“Your presence and ear are what they need,” Kemp said.
Funeral directors caution against common but unhelpful phrases such as “They’re in a better place” or “At least they lived a long life,” which may unintentionally minimize the bereaved’s pain.
“Less is more,” funeral director Daniel Ford said. “Sometimes, a ‘hi’ and a hug or handshake is enough.
Families and friends leaning on the expertise of funeral professionals who guide families through planning meaningful services and providing ongoing grief support is encouraged by the NFDA.
“We are here to help you every step of the way,” funeral director Chris Robinson said. “It’s a hard time for you, and we will help you through it.”
Offering free resources, Remembering A Life helps families honor their loved ones and navigate grief. These include planning guides, grief support tools, creative activities and checklists.
For example, the planning guide helps families organize a meaningful tribute, whether traditional or smaller memorial gatherings, even if delayed due to circumstances like the COVID-19 pandemic. The initiative also offers free printable resources such as “30 Simple Ways to Remember a Loved One” and therapeutic coloring sheets designed to support the grief journey.
“Sometimes, just being present and listening is the most powerful support you can offer,” Worland said. “Our role as funeral directors is to help families find comfort and meaning during one of life’s most difficult times.”
Visit RememberingALife.com to learn more about how to support a grieving person and access additional resources.
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Money Management: The Importance of Financial Literacy
You may have mastered the core subjects like math and grammar in school, but financial literacy – or understanding the basics of money management in order to help you make better financial decisions – often goes overlooked before adulthood. It’s not so much a course of study as it is a plan of action. When you understand how to earn, save, spend and invest wisely, you aren’t just building a stable future for yourself, but your family and community as well.
Last Updated on May 11, 2026 by Daily News Staff
(Feature Impact) You may have mastered the core subjects like math and grammar in school, but financial literacy – or understanding the basics of money management in order to help you make better financial decisions – often goes overlooked before adulthood. It’s not so much a course of study as it is a plan of action.
Financial literacy in the United States has remained stagnant at generally low levels for several years, according to research from TIAA Institute and the Global Financial Literacy Excellence Center, with even lower levels among Gen Z. Yet greater financial literacy – including key aspects such as goal-setting, budgeting, saving, credit management and investing – is strongly linked to better financial outcomes, including lower rates of debt constraint and financial fragility.
While emboldening yourself to understand financial terms can be a little overwhelming at first, once you have a grasp of basic concepts you can begin to get a handle on your money and make better financial decisions. Simply put: When you understand how to earn, save, spend and invest wisely, you aren’t just building a stable future for yourself, but your family and community as well.
From nonprofit partnerships to volunteer-led programs and fee online resources, Schwab and its employees help millions of people every year build the knowledge and confidence to take charge of their financial futures by serving as board members, mentors, role models and educators.
Because financial health is a lifelong journey, the earlier people learn vital money skills, the better. That’s why the financial advisory services provider develops education programs geared toward kids that continue into adulthood, helping people no matter where they are on their journeys.
Talk Money
It’s never too early to start a conversation about financial literacy. Having teens identify goals that are important to them – such as concert tickets or a first car – can kickstart coversations about money. Working with your child (and a financial advisor, if necessary) on a plan for saving to realize those goals can serve as a jumping off point. After achieving some success, their enthusiasm may grow, which is a powerful motivator to keep saving.
Support School Initiatives and Programs
Outreach programs that empower young people to make smart financial decisions is key to a bright future. Programs like Money Matters – Schwab’s flagship financial education program utilized by the Boys & Girls Clubs of America – gives young people hands-on experience with all aspects of money and investing.
This example, and others, don’t just include program funding – they build partnerships that create impact and opportunity with national collaborations that reach more than 17 million youth annually, empowering young people with the tools and confidence to make smart financial decisions for life.
Spread the Financial Love
Championing financial literacy empowers everyone – individuals, families and communities. By serving as a board member, mentor, role model or educator to help bring financial literacy to others in your community, you can supply the tools and knowledge to lead programs that focus on giving back, empowering future generations in countless ways.
To learn more about financial literacy and find resources to empower your local community, visit SchwabMoneywise.com.
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Mother’s Day Celebration: Honoring the Hardest Job in the World
“On Mother’s Day, let’s celebrate the sacrifices and unwavering love of mothers. Join us in honoring the hardest job in the world – motherhood.”
Last Updated on May 4, 2026 by Daily News Staff
Mother’s Day is a special day that celebrates the hard work and dedication of mothers around the world. Being a mother is one of the most difficult jobs there is, yet it is also one of the most rewarding. Mothers work tirelessly to care for their children, often sacrificing their own needs and wants in order to provide for their families.
On Mother’s Day, it is important to take the time to show appreciation for all that mothers do. Whether it’s a simple card, a bouquet of flowers, or a heartfelt message, any gesture of gratitude can go a long way in letting mothers know that their efforts are valued and appreciated.
However, it’s important to remember that Mother’s Day is not just about gifts and presents. It’s a day to acknowledge the sacrifices that mothers make on a daily basis, and to recognize the love and care that they provide to their families.
Mothers work hard to instill values, provide guidance and support, and create a safe and nurturing home environment for their children. They are often the backbone of the family, and their contributions cannot be overstated.
So, on this Mother’s Day, let us take the time to celebrate the mothers in our lives. Let us thank them for their hard work, their sacrifices, and their unwavering love and support. Let us show them that they are valued and appreciated, not just on this special day, but every day of the year.
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The Substitute Teacher Who Wanted Blueprints of Our House
A fifth-grade assignment took a strange turn when a substitute teacher asked students to draw schematics of their homes. What followed — a wildly fictional floor plan and a priceless reaction from my mom — turned into one of my funniest childhood memories.
The Substitute Teacher Who Wanted Blueprints of Our House
Elementary school memories tend to blend together — cafeteria pizza, playground arguments, the eternal struggle of times tables — but every once in a while, something happens that sticks with you for life. For me, that moment came in the fifth grade during a week when our regular teacher was out, and we cycled through substitute teachers like we were testing models for durability.
By midweek, in walked a substitute with a mysterious, slightly intense energy — the kind of vibe that suggested he either meditated at dawn or worked a graveyard shift doing something he couldn’t talk about. We settled into our seats, expecting worksheets or quiet reading time.
But nope.
He had other plans.
“Today,” he announced, “we’re going to draw schematics of our houses.”
Schematics. Not drawings. Not little houses with smoke coming out of the chimney. Actual blueprint-style schematics. He wanted the layout of our bedrooms, our parents’ rooms, and where the pets slept. Every detail.
Now, to be fair, Highlights Magazine did have a feature that month teaching kids how to draw floor plans. So maybe he was just a bit overenthusiastic about cross-curricular learning. Or maybe — and this is my completely rhetorical adult theory — he worked the graveyard shift as a cat burglar gathering intel between heists. Just moonlighting between blueprints.
While the rest of the class tried their best to recreate their actual homes, my imagination sprinted in a totally different direction. The house I drew had:
- A massive master bedroom with an oversized bathroom for my parents
- Separate bedrooms for us kids on the opposite side of the house
- A kitchen placed right in the center like a command center
- And the dog — the true VIP — had a luxurious two-story doghouse
I had basically created a dream home designed by a 10-year-old watching too much Fantasy Homes by the Yard.
Later that day, my mom asked the usual question: “So, what did you guys do today?”
“We drew schematics of our house,” I said casually.
The look on her face was instant and intense. She wasn’t panicked, but there was definitely a “Why does a substitute teacher need to know the exact layout of my home?” expression happening. Parental instincts activated.
But then I showed her my diagram.
She stared at it. Blinked. Then sighed with massive relief.
“This isn’t our house,” she said.
“Nope! I made it up,” I replied proudly.
Her shoulders relaxed so much she probably lost five pounds of tension in one instant. If the substitute was secretly planning a heist, my masterpiece of misinformation would have sent him to the wrong house entirely.
Looking back, the whole moment feels like a sitcom setup — a mysterious substitute collecting “house schematics,” me creating a completely fictional piece of architecture, and my mom going on a full emotional journey in under 30 seconds.
Maybe he was just excited about the Highlights Magazine floor-plan activity. Or maybe — just maybe — he moonlighted in cat burglary. We’ll never know.
But if he was, I like to think I threw him completely off the scent.
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